I have to admit that when it comes to being a Christian leader in my home, online, and in Church isn’t an easy prospect for me. I find I have to bite my tongue quite a bit. In 1 Timothy 3:2-6, Paul gives Timothy a list of qualities a leader ought to have to be shown and seen in the community. In today’s world, that includes both in the Church as well as online.

A Christian leader is someone who lives this out both in the public sense and in private. How does he regulate and hold himself? I want to pick out what I believe are the biggest things any believer needs to desire to be an effective leader in their Church as well as online: blamelessness, having one wife, being self-controlled, being sensible, respectable, hospitable, and having the ability to teach.

Above Reproach

Peter calls us to live as God Himself lives: to live a life of purity (1 Peter 1:16). We only have one life to live and this life has to count. By faith, we understand and live our lives in it toward God. For the believer, as much as the Christian leader, a life that is blameless is one in which the walk of the believer is separate from the ways of that of the world (Isaiah 35:8). In fact, we’re told in scripture that the righteous one has no dealings with any form of evil; he preserves his life (Proverbs 16:17).

Husband of One Wife

In Solomon’s life, we see what happens when a man has more than one wife. It leads the man astray from the love of God (1 Kings 11:1-13). When I say what I do it isn’t to disrespect my wife in the least, but can you imagine what Solomon had to endure? With the amount of wives and concubines he had, they deceived him and pulled his heart of love for God away from him. He simply forgot his first love: the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob.


When it comes to self-control I have to hold Charles Ellicot in the utmost regard. He says, in his commentary regarding self-control, “The Christian office-bearer must not only be wise and self-restrained in himself, but his outward bearing must in all respects correspond to his inner life.” This leader must in all constraints of the word be a master of all his natural impulses. He knows what is best. He exercises the greatest care over himself as well as how he comes across.


In terms of what makes sense for sensible is defined by the New Living Translation: “live wisely.” A man who is sensible isn’t just living wisely, but he manages and discharges all the duties he is to perform with the greatest care and virtue of his position. More than that, he allows scripture to be his constant guide. He strives to emulate servant leadership, which he learns from observing the life of Christ and implementing it himself. It’s as if he takes Mark’s words to heart: “The greatest service one man can do for another is to serve, not be served.” (Mark 10:45)


Almost in all things having a good reputation is of importance. Why? No one really desires to do business with someone who lacks respectability. I recall years ago my dad told me, “I gave you the name you have to bear my image.” To this day it’s still true. What people see and think of you is important. Make sure that if you do anything your critics can’t say much bad about you. And aren’t we all in some ways a critic? I don’t know of one person, living or dead, who thought less of Jesus Christ. He is the most respectable person who ever lived.


Hospitality, in today’s age, is one of the biggest industries in the world. In total, hospitality—from the hotel industry to restaurants—bring in over 2.5 Trillion (Plunkett Research). If we, as believers in Jesus Christ mastered the art of being hospitable more people would seek out Him and His standards, repenting of their sin, and living a changed life. This question arises: are we willing to go out of our way? It means being kind to strangers, clothing them when they need the help, opening our homes and hearts, and providing the best care possible.

Able Teacher

We always think an able teacher is someone who can do more to hold our interests and teach in the most engaging way possible. A teacher of this caliber is also teachable. When it comes down to it they take advice and criticism well. This person is willing to study and learn new ways to reach their audience. They are more than informative. They are compelling. They grab your attention and never let go. Christ is the best known able teacher who ever lived. He said, “The greatest must become a servant, the first must be a slave to all; the Son of Man did not come to be served, but serves, giving His life as a [means of deliverance] for many [lives]” (Matthew 20:26-28).


We can see by using several verses talking about how to be a Christian leader that certain things need to be relevant as well prevalent within the believer’s life. This applies both to a Christian leader’s life in the Church, and the image he portrays online to the world.

With everything that has been expressed within this article, the one biggest thing that is above all in the Christian leader’s life is his love: first to God, and then to others. Christ said, “You will recognize them by their fruit” (Matthew 7:16). Paul said the same (see Galatians 5:22-23). Those things which have been talked about are evident in your life then you have the makings of being a wonderful leader in the Church as well as online.

Sources: Holy Bible, New King James Version®. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson.

Benjamin Liles reaches out worldwide through his website with a wide readership. He lives in Marble Falls, TX with his wife Tanya and two cats, Junior and Allie. Connect with Benjamin:





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